Remember that time when we had just come out from a movie and we spotted some guy trying to steal a ladies purse? And remember how we got the purse back and then chased him half a block? Yeah, those were good times. If only we had been there instead of playing a video game.
That’s right gentlemen, you weren’t there. Your day had been just as always, your dad had given you the talk at the breakfast table before he went to work, your mom had shaken her head as you ignored his wisdom and went to the den to play the newest (fill in the blank).
What went wrong? On the road through your life from Elementary school to High school something must have gone wrong. What?
You lost your since of purpose.
In there, somewhere, was a teacher telling you that you had failed a test. A mother (meaning well) had banned you from ever climbing another tree. When you dreamed, you were bullied, (which didn’t stop even when you stopped dreaming). In there along the way to adult hood, it hit you. You were a kid, just a kid who didn’t know anything and could do anything. And slowly you excepted this truth. You would never be a world cup winner, or a Miss America, you would never see France and you would never make it to Hawaii. Because you weren’t the type of person who did those things. You were the type of person who went to work on Mondays, went out of Fridays, went to church on Sundays and did the whole thing all over again. Because that’s the way it was supposed to be.
I hope this hurts your ears, I hope there’s still enough fire in you to realize that everything I’ve said is a LIE!
Of course your parents are right if they say you can drive a car before your 16, they’re right if they tell you, you can’t drive a car till you’re 21! Why? Because they’re your parents, and they mean the best. But here’s where the line is drawn. You are the only one who can decide who you are.
Your relationship with the LORD is between you and him. Nothing your parents do can either help or hinder that relationship. They can guide you into His loving arms, but in the end, in front of the judgement seat of God, you are the one who will answer. And you won’t just answer for the things you did do, but also the things you didn’t do (James 4:17; Romans 7:19).
BIG NOTE HERE:
It will be the biggest investment of your life to honor your parents! Do not take this article as an excuse to disregard curtain boundaries.
Is it hard to follow your crazy dreams while staying at home/honoring your parents? Yes. Is it impossible? NO! For example, me. My parents have several boundaries and limits, from how we dress, to what we listen to, to where we go with whom. But it was when I stopped kicking and screaming that I finally realized that nothing they’re doing is hindering me. God is All-powerful, if he intends for you to do something, then there will be a way! Remember The Hidden Hands of God? “One very easy way to pick up on God’s hand verses a challenge is the wall. If this “road block” in your plan involves a direct or indirect commandment from God than it is obviously not the road you’re to be on.” This includes, but is not limited to, your parent’s boundaries. Unless they directly go against a commandment from God, your parents are in the right.
To continue with the example, I wanted to become a star (still do actually) and I thought my parents were keeping me from actually using my talents. I thought I had to go places (other than the house) to be successful. But here’s what I found, God provides a way. IF it is his will. Am I a star? No. But do I get to use my talents to bless people. Here you are reading something I’ve written. I’ve had the opportunity to sing for people, and I’ve even been in charge of decorating at a few events.
Does God want you and me to use our talents to bless those around us? Yes. Is there a way to do that at home? YES!
But wait, I’m not done yet. The reason I’m making such a big deal about honoring your parents is because of this simple verse:
“That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world.”
It’s hard to be given a chance or not looked down on as a teen. But here’s something I want you to remember the next time you REALLY want to argue. Be blameless. The Bible tells us that Ruth’s reputation went before her. Joshua was renown. David was sung about. And proverbs sums it up so we don’t miss the point.
“A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches.”
Your reputation is the best weapon you have. When you have a good one, people will respect you, they will give you a chance. Now here’s why they will. Because most teenagers don’t have a good reputation, because it takes time, and effort, and hard work and dedication to procure a good reputation. Teens aren’t well known for hard work. So don’t be afraid to give up some comfort in exchange for doing something right. Time is money but don’t be afraid to invest it.
We live in a world of microwavable results, “promised now in five minutes!” But nothing gains a clean reputation better than quality, which takes time.
Is it hard? Yes! But that’s what we are right? Teens live dangerously!